Things must be really simple when it comes to what you want your dog to do and what you don’t want your dog to do. The instructions you give your dog must be absolute. Saying that your dog can jump on you, but not your friends and their kids is not an absolute rule. It injects logic and a level of problem solving that is impossible for your dog to accomplish. If you don’t want your dog to jump, it must be that he can not jump on anybody, period. Even if some of your friends like him to jump on them, he can not. Here are some idea that will help you accomplish this:
- You must enforce the "cold turkey rule". You must never suggest or encourage your dog to jump on yourself or anybody. Tell your friends not to do the “jump on me pat” or encourage him to jump. This undermines your authority and the effectiveness of the rule.
- If your dog approaches you and gives the appearance that he wants to jump, pay no attention and calmly walk away. This passively removes you from the inappropriate moment. Don't turn your back on him when you walk away. Move diagonally from him, keeping him in your peripheral vision.
- If you miss the moment and he starts to jump, don’t turn your back on him or raise your knee. I know that a lot of trainers say that you should do this. Don’t! Stand tall, face him, say “No” in a low, firm tone, and give a big clap of your hands. As soon as he decides not to jump, praise him in a high toned “Good doggie!”
- When you have guests around, put a leash on him. If he is starting to build adrenaline and jump, simply step on the leash at a point where he doesn’t have the ability to jump. This passively takes his ability to jump away while you are staying calm and focused on your guests. After a few failed attempts, you will find him calmly sitting at your side.